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Lack of Exposure and Abundance of Leisure

Unsettling times are slowly fading away.

These days, the city is quieter than usual & that is nothing to feel sad about because these days, the city is also cleaner and brighter than usual.

The silence. It was scary at first. It is comfortable now. 

It is helping people slow down, and finally understand each other and their own self. 

There are longer conversations in balconies. 

Louder laughs shared with a hot cuppa in the evening. 

Everyone is kinder than usual, so kind that they’re feeding the voiceless, praying & grieving for the homeless because the hands are tied and that’s all one can do right now. There’s also calmness in people’s eyes. 

They’re happy about the way nature is flourishing. 

The long ignored plight has somehow become a priority. Holding on to the hope & healing, we’re finally in sync with mother nature. We’re now similar. 

There’s less agitation and more acceptance now. 

There are more people watching sunsets and no people stuck in traffic. Running the race in this rapidly evolving world, those little things we dreamed of escaping to are now a part of our reality. 

Thursday, 5:03 pm – The distant view of the race course brings back so many memories from childhood.

It is barely visible now. When I was little, I believed it was an airport because its shape looked like a plane to me. When I was little, I also believed I could fly an airplane. Today, I don’t believe I can do everything but I know with certainty that I can do a lot of difficult things.

Friday, 7:42 am – The old neem tree in the neighbourhood is greener now. Back in those days, the girl I went to school with told me it was a place where ghosts reside. I believed that too. But today, I see many birds hovering over it, settling on it’s branches. I see colorful kites stuck on it. It doesn’t look scary. It looks lively and beautiful.

Friday, 5:22 pm – My new found love, dermot kennedy, starts to sing. Whilst his voice begins to consumes my mind & drowns all my thoughts at once, the clean air fills my lungs. And in this moment, I feel alive. I feel grateful for the air I breathe. I look around and suddenly, I wish I could still see the magnificent Charminar from my terrace, like I did when I was a kid.

But that’s okay. 

I see the intricately built metro lines now. 

Saturday, 4:47 pm – I hear prayers from the mosque. The temple is still in sight too. The gods are still there, just no devotees visiting them. Gods understand, I believe. I also believe that they never ask for anything but for you to be human.

Today, 7:30 am –

Sunday, 5:50pm – Living close to the station, I grew up with the sound of trains awakening me in the middle of the night & sometimes falling asleep to it because it was familiar. I don’t hear it these days. But the station is still in sight and the flag hoisted there is still standing tall. It is breathing better too, I feel and that makes me smile.

Today, I spent an hour on my terrace watching the sky but I witnessed something much more beautiful than the crimson skies. I watched a father play with his little girl. Her laugh echoed each time he took her in his arms. It was beautiful.

Today, I saw a teenage boy training his dog on the terrace. They share a beautiful bond, I could tell. 

They were happy. Genuinely happy. 

Let me tell you something.

We’re feeling stuck. We’re feeling caged. Maybe the fear is real. For a while, maybe we really do feel anxious. But that’s not the only thing we’re feeling now, are we?

Take a moment to look around, we’re unlearning and relearning.

We’re learning to seek happiness in little things and we’re doing a great job learning to be happy and at peace. We’re sent home to enjoy the summer break. We’re sent home to rest, readjust and rejuvenate.

So take a moment to look within yourself, there’s a pool of serenity. There’s a sense of contentment swirling in it. There’s  also potential. Undiscovered potential emerging from it. 

And if you trust the timing of life, you’ll realise that there’s a voice reaching out to you. Trying to tell you this halt, this havoc, this pause, the lack of exposure and abundance of leisure, all of it is a blessing. Trust it.

Stay safe, stay sane

Love,

The Unfathomed

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Find the courage to do it selflessly first

We all are trying to find ourselves. We’ve been doing it for a long time, aren’t we? But the search never ends and after all this time, if not completely, we understand ourselves at least a little. We know what we crave, what drives us and makes us feel alive.
But sadly, after every realization and revelation, we always seem to encounter a huge wall. It divides our dream life from reality and boy it sure stands tall and strong. We all try to break it now and then but get tired and give up.
Today, let’s try to build a tunnel or maybe just a little hole to see what lies on the other side. Here’s how—
Think of that one thing that makes you feel alive, the thing you crave for and dream to do for the rest of your life. Now, before worrying about whether or not you can get something out of it, pause and feel it. Before you start to anticipate if you can make a career out of it, feel grateful for the possibility of it and delight in it.
Because to do what you love for the rest of your life, you first need to find the courage to do it selflessly—without any expectations or doubts, with no if’s and but’s, no planning, no second thoughts, no overthinking and no barriers.
You don’t see it but I do—while you are wasting days doubting your passion, ignoring you calling, stifling those urges and taking it for granted, your passion is getting tired of you. It, too, can feel weary constantly fighting to make its way out in this world through you. Understand that whatever makes you feel alive is real and when left neglected despite its several attempts to show you who you are or who you can be, it begins to fade and there’ll be no one but you to blame. It can grow tired of waiting for you to do something about it. It’ll lack the strength to carry your burden of excuses—those that take shape in the form of societal standards, insecurities, hurdles, and all that’s stopping you from reaching out to it and embracing it. And over time, the things that stir your heart and make you feel alive will leave you. As it all begins to fade, you begin to feel lifeless. You will then feel numb, alone and dead without your passion. Look around you and you will see living examples of this—tired faces with sad eyes, regrets of not taking a chance at what makes them happy buried inside their chest, minds resembling trash cans full of meaningless chaos, it has happened to many people and it’ll happen to many more but we always have the choice to take a different road, we always have the power to be an exception.
I repeat, spend years ignoring and doubting the spark in you and it’ll vanish. Spend a few pure moments every day guarding and fueling it selflessly, it’ll grow into a wildfire. On days you fail to feed it and fall victim to the coldness of the world, it’ll still burn and keep you warm.
So take it from a girl who dared to love her passion selflessly, who adored every mistake she made along the way, who did not seek validation or waited for someone else to tell her she can do it and who, like an innocent child, trusted her passion with all her heart and like a mother, protected it with all her might—IT IS WORTH EVERYTHING.
And here’s a little something for you to help you get started—
Before preparing to paint a masterpiece, paint as you did in kindergarten. Before planning to write a book, write like you are writing in your personal journal—unabashedly and messily. Before trying to compose sensational tunes, hum like you breathe music and sing in showers. Before planning to run a marathon, run like you are running along the beach on a Sunday morning.
Before you make big plans for the future, adore your passion. Feed it to your soul and you will see it seeping through your pores.
And amidst all this, don’t forget to take time to celebrate the small victories.
Before you begin to work toward the life of your dreams, feel and acknowledge the ‘now’. The present moment and small achievements are just as precious as your end goal.
This space you are in right now is just yours and this time you are spending trying to figure out the mess is your awakening. It’ll all make sense, trust it.

Love and light,

Nandini, The Unfathomed

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Life isn’t hard, people in it are. So stop blaming life for the mess people create.

Life isn’t hard, people in it are. Life doesn’t hurt you, people in it do. Life isn’t unfair to you, people and situations are.

Life isn’t beating you down, it is in fact always there for you, kind enough to keep you breathing.

Life isn’t what’s around you, it is what is inside of you—your breath, your heartbeat, the blood running through your veins, the strength in your limbs and that voice in you, that’s life.

So stop blaming life for things people do. Stop giving up on ‘life’ because of the actions of others. Get rid of this misconception that people, things or situation destroyed your life.

Nobody can do that, they can only mess your present. You need to realize that time is always ticking and that present quickly becomes the past.

Too bad, you continue to treat it as present and keep their wrongdoings alive in your head.

Hell, you even feed those memories and use it as an excuse to justify your present situation.

Are you even aware of human power?

Do you know what you are capable of?

Do you have any idea what potential lies in you or how powerful your mind is?

No, you don’t. Because if you did, you wouldn’t be using its powers to run in circles, you wouldn’t be ruminating over past events and dragging it into your present or planning to push it into your future.

As powerless as past events, actions of others and situations can be, the scary thing is you are someone who is utterly capable of destroying your own life.

You will do it with pride and distribute the blame among everything that happened in that small stretch of time that broke you, you will blame one event but fail to see that you are the one who is responsible for dragging it throughout life.

Bad things that happen to you can’t end your life, but sadly, you can. You are the only one holding the deadly weapon, you have the power to end it and it’s pathetic if you are abusing it.

Stop treating your life like a joke, stop taking it for granted, stop feeling crippled because when life actually starts to get away from you, you will die even before it leaves you.

When your body starts to give up on you, when these lungs no longer want to breathe air in you, when your limbs get tired of waiting for you to do something with your life, you will know what pain really is.

You will know the difference between a lesson and real pain but it will be too late. Cling to those burdens, and life will give up on you. Remember this.

Love,

The Unfathomed

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You are constantly in the state of becoming — remember this

“You are constantly in the state of becoming — remember this”

The next time you feel like you’re breaking, remind yourself that you are breaking through something, that you are transforming into something strong and beautiful.

Like many beautiful things, your transformation too goes unnoticed but remember that it is there — now and always. You don’t need anyone to notice your growth, appreciate your strength or applaud your bravery — No, you don’t need anyone to witness your evolution in order for you to believe in it. The one you see in the mirror every morning is witnessing it all and you can find solace in that truth. The one undergoing transformation will tell you all the stories and remind you of the strength of character you’ve developed and grace you’ve embodied all along. The body you stare at in the mirror, the one you tried too hard to change but instead learned to love and accept will tell you everything you need to know; the confidence oozing from your fiery eyes, the shine on your flushed cheeks after you killed that last set and screamed through that last rep, the sweet pain in your muscle and the calmness in your mind — all of these will tell you who you are becoming, they’ll whisper and talk and howl, you only need to listen and believe it all.

Pain doesn’t lie, growth doesn’t lie, your heart doesn’t lie and neither will your body. You can’t say the same for people around you, the voices surrounding you or the eyes staring at you but you can always rely on yourself to see and tell the truth. So next time you think you are hurting, know that you are transforming; the next time you are crumbling, know that your heart is settling and making a home in itself, the next time you find yourself doubting your capabilities, know that your will power is strengthening and getting ready for something challenging, the next time you feel you’re breaking, know that you are in fact, becoming.

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Do you remember how you learned to walk?

To reach those welcoming arms, you believed in yourself and followed those voices and claps around you, you had a huge grin on your face, eyes stuck on that person calling you even when your tiny legs shook and you stumbled. You fell to the ground but your eyes stayed stuck on that person, those arms you wanted to reach. You laughed it off and mindlessly got up with a smile. You started to walk with the same spirit. You didn’t worry about the fall. 

You simply believed in yourself and in the process because you knew no other way. You trusted the unknown and tried this new thing that is ‘walking’ without fear and believed you’ll figure it all out along the way. You were excited. You didn’t worry about what you’ll get out of it or if it’ll even be worth it

You just went for it because you wanted to. 

No second thoughts, no overthinking, no barriers, no doubts.

Do that every day and in everything because, in matters of life, you’re still a kid and will always be one. That’s the beauty of it, the universal truth. Until your last breath, you are and will always be on the path to learning new things and we all know that learning involves failing. Don’t try so hard to be an adult in such situations and don’t crave to have it all figured out in advance.

Don’t focus on the ultimate solution, the reward, the end goal. Don’t try so hard to have it all figured out. Just focus on the next step, next effort, next action and have faith.

Don’t let fear cripple you.

Choose blind faith kid, you’re doing great.

—Nandini                                                                                                    

The Unfathomed

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In blindly following a map, do not forget you are the creator. You have the world at your fingertips.

Follow those walking ahead of you

Those who’ve already finished the race

Those who dared to dream; lived the life of your dreams and were buried in peace

Seek lessons from them

and hold their stories close

But amidst all this,

do not forget to learn from yourself

From your own struggle

From your beaten broken self

From your stubborn 5-year-old self

Do not forget to learn from your own life story

In following someone else’s path to success

Don’t leave yourself behind

Seeking inspiration without even looking for it is a wonderful feeling. You happen to find it in the most unexpected places and in the weirdest way possible — this brings out the weirdo in you and gives you that little amount of courage to go crazy for a while. But sometimes you go through days where you can’t seem to find anything beautiful; days where you prepare yourself to mourn the loss of the artist in you. These are the days you should give up looking for the courage to be crazy and just choose to be calm. These are the days you forget you are supposed to be writing, painting, singing, dancing or doing anything and just remember that your only job today is to breathe and be human.

Feeling things intensely or just staying numb — they both make you human, remember that.

Avoid pressurizing your body and mind and allow yourself to be still.

And about seeking inspiration from others,

Follow as many legends and artists you want, look at them and see yourself,

learn from their stories, get inspired, imagine their moments, obsess over them and dream to have a life like theirs but once in a while, look back and see yourself — the happy and carefree child that you were, the reckless teenager that you were, the beaten and broken soul that you were, the confused and broke adult that you were — and be proud.

Being ambitious is a great thing and moving close to the life of your dreams is a courageous thing, I agree. But reflecting back on the life you’ve lived so far and appreciating yourself for the struggles you’ve endured, is equally essential.

You don’t want to lose sight of who you are — so do not forget to look back and see how far you’ve come.

Because in the end, nothing inspires you more than your own story.

And you don’t want to succeed in getting the life of your dream only to find out you’re just pieces of those you’ve so madly followed. You don’t want to reach there and fail to remember who you really are.  

You don’t want to end up being successful and not feel like yourself, do you?

So c’ mon, take some time to be you. Every now and then, remind yourself of the shit you’ve been through and be proud of the ever-evolving badass that you are.

Thank you for reading

Love & light,

Nandini

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