The Unfathomed

Gentle Reminders | Healing | Art and Purpose | Mindful Living | Self-Care and Growth

Tag: perfection

Enough isn’t a standard that needs to be achieved or chased. Enough is acceptance.

“I’m enough,” you tell yourself first thing in the morning because someone on youtube has told you to practice self-love with affirmations

You say it and get out of your bed feeling ready for the day

You end the day feeling clueless and yet again, you go to sleep feeling ‘not enough’

What is wrong, why is there no change and why do my efforts seem to go in vain, you ask yourself. Like every other night, you chose to shove it all aside and sleep or spend hours thinking about everything. You have convinced yourself that those are the only two ways to deal with it and do nothing but push yourself to find some energy to face tomorrow.  

But maybe, just telling yourself you are enough every morning isn’t enough. Maybe you need to actually believe it and maybe that’ll take you longer than those few minutes of affirming in the morning. Maybe because you say and don’t really believe it, throughout the day your mind and body are forced to look for validation everywhere you go and in everything you do. It’s a cycle that you are oblivious to. You look for it in the eyes of a stranger passing by and even a slightly different look from anyone makes you want to check yourself in the mirror. You look for it in the emails flooding your inbox and hope to find some words of appreciation from your higher officials.

You try to find it in the rising digits of your bank account, in the fancy collection flooding your closet, in the flashy pictures clicked in nightclubs and in likes and comments from strangers. You search for it in the words falling out your beloved’s mouth and more so dig for it in his/her actions every day. You fail to see it all and end your day believing it isn’t there. It’s time you understand that enough doesn’t mean perfect. Enough isn’t a standard that needs to be achieved or chased. Enough is acceptance. Enough is the thing only you can give to yourself; it needs your attention and support. A rare feeling that can be found only in you.

No person, accomplishment, place or thing can make you feel enough. Nothing can convince you to let the burden off your shoulders; the burden of expectations piled up whilst looking for validation in all the wrong places. You have to do it for yourself and it’s not a hard thing. It’s not a responsibility but a need; something as natural as feeding yourself with your own hands every day. Saying and believing you are enough is a very personal thing; don’t see it as a task that needs a reminder or a routine, it is something beautifully divine and very personal to you as a person.

Shift your idea of ‘enough means perfection and validation’ to ‘enough means acceptance and celebration of my rawness’ and I promise you won’t go to sleep feeling ‘not enough’.

Please don’t just read this and forget, the purpose of this post will be met only when you practice it. Let’s take it one step at a time. Start off by saving a part of this post in your notepad, the part that you liked the most and maybe take some time to act on it. Also, I’d love to know how it helped you.

Thank you for reading.

Love and light,

Nandini

Find more of the unfathomed at:

A reminder that struggling is just as common and normal as breathing


I know you often wonder why it had happened and why you have to live with the weight of certain things. I know you wish to make a change and try your best to live a good life. I know you tell yourself it’s going to be alright but have difficulty believing your own words. I didn’t say a name yet these lines resonated with almost all of you. Almost each one of you found yourself in it and felt as though I’m talking about you; to you.

Doesn’t this say something? It sure does. This means you are not alone.

What a beautiful thing it is that we’re all in this together. It might seem like you are alone but if only you could hear the thoughts of others the way you hear their voices, you’d know that wondering, failing, struggling, falling, getting back up, doubting, and doing it all over again is just as common as breathing. We’re all doing it and dealing with this thing called life in our own weird ways. Too bad the struggle is internal and our eyes fail to recognize it. We have convinced ourselves to mask it all and have made sadness seem like a crime; you can’t be sad in public, you can’t let anyone see your struggle, and you can’t talk about it out loud.

“Shhh! Suffer alone and be sad in private, that’s brave” you’ve been taught.

That’s brave, that courageous and shows maturity, isn’t it? NO.

Being sad is as normal as being happy. Doubting yourself is as normal as appreciating your victories. And breaking down is as normal as laughing your heart out. So stop torturing yourself for having flaws and stop poking at your dark parts or even worse trying to live as though they don’t exist. C’mon! You are a human — a wild living thing, not some delusional unicorn dripping with perfection.

And if you feel like you are failing and aren’t truly living or making the most of your life, know that there’s no perfect road map to living life. The mere fact that there are a million thoughts originating from you and running through your mind, a thousand words falling out of your mouth, hundreds of voices you are connected to, is enough proof that you are full of life and truly alive. You are living life just the way it’s meant to be lived.

Who made you believe that life was supposed to be a perfect fairytale and minds were supposed to be empty and hearts intact? Who said you are supposed to spend all your years tuning out imperfections and aiming to build a perfect little bubble to live in? Who plotted you against this beautiful thing called ‘life’ that you blame it for all the real things it offers? Think about it and you might realize that you aren’t supposed to be fighting so hard. While you are out there thinking you suck at living this life, you are actually living it just the right way — you are living your story. When you realize that your life isn’t something that needs to be filled with achievements and you only need to accept whatever comes your way, learn, grow and breathe, you will quit trying to MAKE a perfect life and understand you already HAVE a beautiful life. It can’t be tuned to perfection because the world’s idea of a perfect life is quite unrealistic and it brings nothing but toxicity to your mind and body. I know I’m trying too hard to defy the odds and change your perspective but I hope you got what I’m trying to say (at least a little).

Now, wouldn’t you believe me if I said that you aren’t alone and you aren’t abnormal or weak for feeling clueless about your life?

You should.

Because the truth is this is how it’s meant to be but sadly, we’ve been conditioned to believe otherwise.

You are supposed to be clueless so life can surprise you. You can’t choose what life throws at you; you can only rejoice in its goodness, wallow a little in the dark parts, learn from it and grow.

Find more of the unfathomed at:

© 2020 The Unfathomed

Theme by Anders NorenUp ↑

error

Hello, beautiful human. Thank you for being here! If you enjoy reading my work, share it with a loved one :)