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Find the courage to do it selflessly first

We all are trying to find ourselves. We’ve been doing it for a long time, aren’t we? But the search never ends and after all this time, if not completely, we understand ourselves at least a little. We know what we crave, what drives us and makes us feel alive.
But sadly, after every realization and revelation, we always seem to encounter a huge wall. It divides our dream life from reality and boy it sure stands tall and strong. We all try to break it now and then but get tired and give up.
Today, let’s try to build a tunnel or maybe just a little hole to see what lies on the other side. Here’s how—
Think of that one thing that makes you feel alive, the thing you crave for and dream to do for the rest of your life. Now, before worrying about whether or not you can get something out of it, pause and feel it. Before you start to anticipate if you can make a career out of it, feel grateful for the possibility of it and delight in it.
Because to do what you love for the rest of your life, you first need to find the courage to do it selflessly—without any expectations or doubts, with no if’s and but’s, no planning, no second thoughts, no overthinking and no barriers.
You don’t see it but I do—while you are wasting days doubting your passion, ignoring you calling, stifling those urges and taking it for granted, your passion is getting tired of you. It, too, can feel weary constantly fighting to make its way out in this world through you. Understand that whatever makes you feel alive is real and when left neglected despite its several attempts to show you who you are or who you can be, it begins to fade and there’ll be no one but you to blame. It can grow tired of waiting for you to do something about it. It’ll lack the strength to carry your burden of excuses—those that take shape in the form of societal standards, insecurities, hurdles, and all that’s stopping you from reaching out to it and embracing it. And over time, the things that stir your heart and make you feel alive will leave you. As it all begins to fade, you begin to feel lifeless. You will then feel numb, alone and dead without your passion. Look around you and you will see living examples of this—tired faces with sad eyes, regrets of not taking a chance at what makes them happy buried inside their chest, minds resembling trash cans full of meaningless chaos, it has happened to many people and it’ll happen to many more but we always have the choice to take a different road, we always have the power to be an exception.
I repeat, spend years ignoring and doubting the spark in you and it’ll vanish. Spend a few pure moments every day guarding and fueling it selflessly, it’ll grow into a wildfire. On days you fail to feed it and fall victim to the coldness of the world, it’ll still burn and keep you warm.
So take it from a girl who dared to love her passion selflessly, who adored every mistake she made along the way, who did not seek validation or waited for someone else to tell her she can do it and who, like an innocent child, trusted her passion with all her heart and like a mother, protected it with all her might—IT IS WORTH EVERYTHING.
And here’s a little something for you to help you get started—
Before preparing to paint a masterpiece, paint as you did in kindergarten. Before planning to write a book, write like you are writing in your personal journal—unabashedly and messily. Before trying to compose sensational tunes, hum like you breathe music and sing in showers. Before planning to run a marathon, run like you are running along the beach on a Sunday morning.
Before you make big plans for the future, adore your passion. Feed it to your soul and you will see it seeping through your pores.
And amidst all this, don’t forget to take time to celebrate the small victories.
Before you begin to work toward the life of your dreams, feel and acknowledge the ‘now’. The present moment and small achievements are just as precious as your end goal.
This space you are in right now is just yours and this time you are spending trying to figure out the mess is your awakening. It’ll all make sense, trust it.

Love and light,

Nandini, The Unfathomed

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Life isn’t hard, people in it are. So stop blaming life for the mess people create.

Life isn’t hard, people in it are. Life doesn’t hurt you, people in it do. Life isn’t unfair to you, people and situations are.

Life isn’t beating you down, it is in fact always there for you, kind enough to keep you breathing.

Life isn’t what’s around you, it is what is inside of you—your breath, your heartbeat, the blood running through your veins, the strength in your limbs and that voice in you, that’s life.

So stop blaming life for things people do. Stop giving up on ‘life’ because of the actions of others. Get rid of this misconception that people, things or situation destroyed your life.

Nobody can do that, they can only mess your present. You need to realize that time is always ticking and that present quickly becomes the past.

Too bad, you continue to treat it as present and keep their wrongdoings alive in your head.

Hell, you even feed those memories and use it as an excuse to justify your present situation.

Are you even aware of human power?

Do you know what you are capable of?

Do you have any idea what potential lies in you or how powerful your mind is?

No, you don’t. Because if you did, you wouldn’t be using its powers to run in circles, you wouldn’t be ruminating over past events and dragging it into your present or planning to push it into your future.

As powerless as past events, actions of others and situations can be, the scary thing is you are someone who is utterly capable of destroying your own life.

You will do it with pride and distribute the blame among everything that happened in that small stretch of time that broke you, you will blame one event but fail to see that you are the one who is responsible for dragging it throughout life.

Bad things that happen to you can’t end your life, but sadly, you can. You are the only one holding the deadly weapon, you have the power to end it and it’s pathetic if you are abusing it.

Stop treating your life like a joke, stop taking it for granted, stop feeling crippled because when life actually starts to get away from you, you will die even before it leaves you.

When your body starts to give up on you, when these lungs no longer want to breathe air in you, when your limbs get tired of waiting for you to do something with your life, you will know what pain really is.

You will know the difference between a lesson and real pain but it will be too late. Cling to those burdens, and life will give up on you. Remember this.

Love,

The Unfathomed

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You are constantly in the state of becoming — remember this

“You are constantly in the state of becoming — remember this”

The next time you feel like you’re breaking, remind yourself that you are breaking through something, that you are transforming into something strong and beautiful.

Like many beautiful things, your transformation too goes unnoticed but remember that it is there — now and always. You don’t need anyone to notice your growth, appreciate your strength or applaud your bravery — No, you don’t need anyone to witness your evolution in order for you to believe in it. The one you see in the mirror every morning is witnessing it all and you can find solace in that truth. The one undergoing transformation will tell you all the stories and remind you of the strength of character you’ve developed and grace you’ve embodied all along. The body you stare at in the mirror, the one you tried too hard to change but instead learned to love and accept will tell you everything you need to know; the confidence oozing from your fiery eyes, the shine on your flushed cheeks after you killed that last set and screamed through that last rep, the sweet pain in your muscle and the calmness in your mind — all of these will tell you who you are becoming, they’ll whisper and talk and howl, you only need to listen and believe it all.

Pain doesn’t lie, growth doesn’t lie, your heart doesn’t lie and neither will your body. You can’t say the same for people around you, the voices surrounding you or the eyes staring at you but you can always rely on yourself to see and tell the truth. So next time you think you are hurting, know that you are transforming; the next time you are crumbling, know that your heart is settling and making a home in itself, the next time you find yourself doubting your capabilities, know that your will power is strengthening and getting ready for something challenging, the next time you feel you’re breaking, know that you are in fact, becoming.

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Do you remember how you learned to walk?

To reach those welcoming arms, you believed in yourself and followed those voices and claps around you, you had a huge grin on your face, eyes stuck on that person calling you even when your tiny legs shook and you stumbled. You fell to the ground but your eyes stayed stuck on that person, those arms you wanted to reach. You laughed it off and mindlessly got up with a smile. You started to walk with the same spirit. You didn’t worry about the fall. 

You simply believed in yourself and in the process because you knew no other way. You trusted the unknown and tried this new thing that is ‘walking’ without fear and believed you’ll figure it all out along the way. You were excited. You didn’t worry about what you’ll get out of it or if it’ll even be worth it

You just went for it because you wanted to. 

No second thoughts, no overthinking, no barriers, no doubts.

Do that every day and in everything because, in matters of life, you’re still a kid and will always be one. That’s the beauty of it, the universal truth. Until your last breath, you are and will always be on the path to learning new things and we all know that learning involves failing. Don’t try so hard to be an adult in such situations and don’t crave to have it all figured out in advance.

Don’t focus on the ultimate solution, the reward, the end goal. Don’t try so hard to have it all figured out. Just focus on the next step, next effort, next action and have faith.

Don’t let fear cripple you.

Choose blind faith kid, you’re doing great.

—Nandini                                                                                                    

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Come here, I’ll show you what it takes to build a castle—a safe place for not just yourself but for others too.

Don’t be so proud of the toy fort you’ve built in your bedroom, the fort you whine in when it gets dark. Stop damaging others because you fail to carry the weight of it all on your own. Come here, I’ll show you what it takes to build a castle—a safe place for not just yourself but for others too. I’ll show you what true strength looks like, what ugly scars one has to bear and what it takes to not bleed on others. 

Don’t call yourself strong unless you know what true warriors are made of and how they rise out of burdens and heaps of pain with grace, how they choose kindness and not bitterness or resentment,  I’ll show you how they transform and not change. Warriors and strong people aren’t those who are ruthless, they don’t destroy, they don’t change into someone insensitive. They are angels those who break and burn but still share innocent smiles, who struggle but never use it as an excuse for their behavior, who bleed but never taint others, who lead by example, who learn from the pain and choose to protect and help those on the same journey. Warriors are those who live for something larger than themselves. They aren’t selfish, they don’t sit in comfort of their beds being uncaring, seeing everything and everyone as a threat, protecting themselves from all possible dangers. They get out and make the world a better place, they keep things real and don’t go begging for rewards. They don’t crave validation from others. They don’t seek appreciation for getting out of the rut they so willingly got themselves in. They don’t turn a blind eye to the needs of others, they don’t put on a façade, envy, backstab or ill-advise. They never use pain as an excuse. 

Don’t call yourself a fighter if all you do is proudly wallow in self-pity and rewind misfortunes. Don’t expect care and pampering if you only know how to take and never wish to give anything back. Don’t sting others with the poison of what life had bought for you. Because if you do, you will be left with nothing but tales of your misfortune—laced with the false pride you nurtured—choking you. Wait for it to happen and you will be left with no one and nothing to help breathe air in you. 

—Nandini

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